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  1. Have you ever noticed the massive difference between listening and hearing? Sometimes, it’s possible for us to hear without listening, and other times, we can listen to a person communicate with us whilst not hearing a single word that they’re attempting to say. There’s often a huge ‘gap’ between what we intend to say and what we ACTUALLY say. And likewise, there’s often a huge ‘gap’ between what others intend to say and what they ACTUALLY say. “I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” - Rob McClosky If we, as Achologists, DON’T commit to DEEP listening when interacting with others, we’ll not always be able to see (or hear) what our clients goals and/or concerns are. If we are not committed to the process of listening, we are likely in the process of trying to teach, trying to correct or trying to ‘fix’ - all of which are just an expression of our innate need to control other people and situations. This isn’t genuine helping. So, here’s today’s question (and honest answers only please folks); Q) How often do you allow your talking (or your assumptions) to get in the way of listening to, hearing, and truly understanding other people? What could you change about your communication style that would enable you to better connect with, and also better understand those people in your life?
  2. Hey there friends! It's so very rewarding each time I take a few hours out to look through what so many of you are doing, here inside the Achology community, and also outside in the societies/communities where you live and serve. Many of you will be aware that we've become a very diverse community with an even more diverse range of skillsets and abilities. In hope of giving some encouragement to our newer Achology members, what's your greatest success story so far, since you started putting what you've learned through the courses into practice??
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    Achology’s First Community Project!

    Wow Team Achology - thank you all for getting so involved with this - we weren’t sure if this idea would ‘take off’ or not! Awesome job 👍😀👍
  4. Achology's first community project is now officially underway! We are crowd sourcing exam questions for the NLP Practitioner Course. If you provided your name and your question(s) is picked for the exam, then we'll feature your name on the question during the exam! https://goo.gl/forms/YD707da35lr6BX9r2 Here’s a video I created about this in the PMP Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/kain.ramsay.5/videos/1775782212458673/
  5. This is an excellent (and very accurate) observation Heather. Carl Rogers has been a hero of mine for many years now. I love his therapeutic approach, his attitude towards people and the insights he had about how to nurture a mature community. In short, yes, Carl Rogers has hugely inspired everything that I've committed my life to!
  6. Identity, identity, identity... Identity is defined as ’who we are’. It’s what makes us who we are; it's what makes each of us unique. Our true identity doesn't require us to place labels on ourselves, associate with groups, believe anything or follow any specific pattern of behaviour. Who we are is more than mere labels. Still, this can often be hard to understand because many of us are still learning who we are each day. People may call us things like lazy, worthless, useless or arrogant. They may also call us things like great, smart, or compliment us in our ability to perform. We cannot be summed up by words. Other people do not choose our identity. Our parents do not choose our identity. Society does not decide who we are either. Q1) What labels, behaviours, outcomes or beliefs have you historically used to define yourself or fit in with a larger group of people? Q2) What words have you historically used to ’box’ in your individual uniqueness?
  7. One of the main factors in modifying human behaviour is a person's motivation and primary reasons for desiring change to begin with. When it comes to change though, Its one thing wanting change to happen and then its something else entirely ’willing’ change to happen! A person will not start taking the required steps that'll enable them to change until their desire to change becomes greater than their longing to remain the same. Often, those people who accomplish many great things in life are those who have ditched their opinions (about things) and who've resultantly freed themselves from limiting biases. Qu) What of your opinions and personal biases are costing you in other aspects of your life?
  8. Happy Friday everyone, have a fantastic weekend and enjoy the latest Achology talks video! In our latest Achology Talks video, our director of training Kain, editor Cassian and strategic coach David Bejarano discuss the topic of Diversity. > Diversity <
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    In our latest Achology Talks video, our director of training Kain, editor Cassian and strategic coach David Bejarano discuss the topic of Diversity.
  10. A huge hole that people fall into is believing that life is lived from the outside-in. Those who think this way tend to believe we cannot help being emotionally impacted by the going’s on in our outside worlds (I.e. the economy, war, rumours of war, fake news, politicians etc). Those who are wise know that in reality, life is lived from the inside-out - meaning, that there’s nothing outside of us that can ‘make’ us think or feel anything (inside of us) without our full permission. This is just one of those abstract realities. We are each in control of how we think, feel, act and behave. This is the essence of responsibility. Albert Ellis once stated, “Reality is less about what happens to us, and more about how we think about those events that create the reality we experience.” In a very real sense, this means that we each create the reality in which we live. We do this through the way in which we internalise our day-to-day experience of the outside world. Yes, it’s easier to blame other people, the economy, the weather, the state of world affairs etc for why we experience life the way we do. This is neither mature nor responsible. No one is a ‘victim’ until they consciously decide to be, and for those who’d debate this - being a victim is just a mindset that some people choose to adopt in response to their outer world experiences. So, an important question we can each ask ourselves is this.... Q) In what ways do you still allow yourself to me influenced (or completely controlled) by those things outside your control in the outside world?
  11. Have you heard the old proverb, “Money isn’t the route to all evil, but the love of money leads people down the road of self destruction.” Many people stress about money and make it their primary goal or objective in life. Ironically, money within itself has no real value. Money is completely useless when it’s hoarded, or kept in a bank, and people who do this often do so to compensate for the limited ‘perceived’ value that they place on themselves. Don’t loathe greedy people, instead, pity them. It’s possible to fully reject a person’s greed (and love of money) while unconditionally accepting the person. The true value of money comes from the goals it enables us to achieve. Seeing money as an enabler (of our goals) is a healthy perspective to have - this attitude provokes us to work smarter and better manage our day-to-day money related concerns. Many helping practitioners don’t like discussing money, however, it’s an aspect of life that impacts us all in some way. Q) How comfortable are you in talking about money with other people (or your clients) and have you ever considered why?
  12. On a side note .... if by chance I completely screw my day up (which does happen every now and again), I just stop what I'm doing, go to a cafe and read. Life's way too short to sweat the small stuff!
  13. I'm usually quite disciplined to be honest (unless I'm utterly exhausted). When I was serving in the Army, my morning routine alway began with a cold water shower, drinking a litre of cold water and 3 banana's before going for a 3-4km run (or jog). I always find brisk exercise to be a good 'wake up call' which sets the tone for the day. Once exercise is over, I plan my day's tasks while eating my breakfast. This keeps me in control of my day and NOT a slave to the diary. Incidentally, I stopped using a diary about two years. I don't commit to scheduled appointments or other peoples time frames. Everyday, my timings are held onto loosely, leaving me free to respond to those last minute 'things' which always inevitably arise. Not living by the diary keeps me free with my time and perpetually out of the stress zone. It's just a 'head space' thing 😉👍
  14. Over the last few day, I've been asked if we could start a discussion thread around the Achology Manifesto. So here it is: We believe that every individual has an innate desire to DEVELOP and enhance themselves so to become the BEST possible version of themselves. We believe in the role of the ACHOLOGIST, who enables others to transform and progress in all aspects of life. We strive to braid a range of PSYCHOLOGICALLY based disciplines together to offer a multifaceted approach to THERAPEUTIC training. We are committed to the advancement of all helping professions, through COMMUNITY, ACCOUNTABILITY and MUTUAL SUPPORT. We are advocates of ongoing LEARNING, TRAINING and CONTINUOUS PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT while embracing EFFICIENT HELPING as our objective, instead of academic achievement. We are wholly committed to the values of EMPOWERMENT, TRANSPARENCY, RESPONSIBILITY, COMPETENCE, REALNESS and PIONEERING SPIRIT. These values are echoed via our deeds. We presuppose that all people are CREATED EQUAL, yet recognise that not all people have EQUALITY OF OPPORTUNITY. We are committed to providing OPPORTUNITY to train in THERAPEUTIC SKILLS to those who have historically been denied by high-cost barriers. We wholly endorse the principle of PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY. We affirm that PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY leads to MATURITY. We DO NO HARM, seek no power and hold ALL EQUAL and deserving of the possibilities of their POTENTIAL. We embrace the attitude of unconditional ACCEPTANCE, the healing virtue of active LISTENING, and the transformative nature of authentic COMMUNICATION. PERSONAL GROWTH and the TRANSFORMATIVE capacity of therapy are the RIGHT and RESPONSIBILITY of us ALL. Yes, many of our goals aren't cultural and some contradict popular belief ... so let's discuss 👍
  15. A commonly asked question that many new practitioners ask is, "Should I offer different session 'block booking' packages at different price points?" Historically, I've found this to be quite an effective aspect on an overall pricing strategy. Having 'higher-priced, medium-priced and lower-priced' options means you’ll be able to serve a broader segment of your target market. Do this by offering different means through which potential clients can work with you (instead of having multiple 1-1 session packages at differing price points). For example, you can: a) Offer group sessions as your 'low priced' option. This is often ideal for price-sensitive clients, those who prefer a group environment and an 'entry-level' way to experience you and your professional offerings. b) Offer your 1-1 sessions package as your 'medium-priced' option. For most multi-disciplinary practitioners, this is the option that the majority of clients will opt for. c) Offer a 'Premium 1 Day Personal Breakthrough' as your 'higher-priced' option. When creating this 'higher-priced' option, focus on offering what will enable clients to achieve the desired results they want. Premium clients often don't have a problem with making a significant investment if you are allowing them to produce a specific outcome. It would be great to hear of any other pricing strategies that have historically worked for you?