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  1. "Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things or more money , in order to do more of what they want so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want." - M. Young

    1. Karen Armstrong

      Karen Armstrong

      So True!! 😁

  2. That's great, @Sunil! I'll post here another session soon 🙂 Hope you are having a great day!
  3. It Hi @Sarah, When I do it again, I'll share the details here again. Right now, it looks like there is enough interest for it to come up again next month 🙂 !
  4. "Fundamentally, the work of a psychologist is to take someone from pathology and dysfunction and return him to normality.
    The work of a coach is to take someone who is normal and help her become exceptional."

    - Stephen G. Farley

    1. ToniLee

      ToniLee

      BOOM GOES THE DYNAMITE! ❤️ Love this ❤️

  5. Thank-you Susan. I'll be sure to post when I do it again. 😊
  6. Debby Spaltmann

    Show your business cards please!

    Hi, I have business cards that I use for networking events. And I like to receive them, as I scribble some notes on them when I get one from someone I've just met, about what I remember from them, where I met them, and what they may be interested in that I could deliver - as well as what I could contact them about, if need be. (The problem later, though, is where to store them 🙂- but that is another topic altogether). Not sure if you noticed, but I posted an invitation to a Zoom meeting taking place on Monday, 17. Sept. at 7 pm CEST where I will be sharing some tips on "How To Network". I was invited to do a presentation on this topic on the 26th at an In-Person meeting as I've done this talk many times there before and the folks there found value in it. So I thought I'd share it here, too. So if anyone wants to know more about the evolution of Elevator Pitches, and how to network today to make connections at in-person-events, then you're welcome to come join in!
  7. @Sarah @Susieh Hi! I updated and posted the Zoom Number in the top post of this thread. I "forgot" that you can't send personal invitations here and didn't know how else to contact you, 😞 . Apologies for any inconvenience! -Debby
  8. Hi Susan, You're in!
  9. Hi @Sarah, You're in!
  10. I will be holding a free "how to" workshop-presentation on how to enhance your business networking communications approach in a Zoom meeting on Monday, September 17, 2018 at 7 pm Central European Time. In this workshop, I will introduce how networking and elevator-pitch techniques have evolved over the past decade and share a script you can use to introduce yourself in networking situations, along with some ideas on how to get a "real" conversation going with other attendees at such events. This online event is the precursor of a talk I will be giving at the Munich American-German Business Club (AGBC) later this month, where I will be hosting and moderating a networking session for the members. If you are interested to join this online workshop, just reply to this post and I'll send you the log-in details. NEW: Zoom Meeting Details now included here! ZOOM MEETING Monday, Sept. 17, 2018 at 7 pm Central European Time Join from PC, Mac, Linux, iOS or Android: https://zoom.us/j/536900965 Or iPhone one-tap : US: +16699006833,,536900965# or +14086380968,,536900965# Or Telephone: Dial(for higher quality, dial a number based on your current location): US: +1 669 900 6833 or +1 408 638 0968 or +1 646 876 9923 Meeting ID: 536 900 965 International numbers available: https://zoom.us/u/eJznamMFi Looking forward to see you there! - Debby Following, is an extract of the blurb announcement the AGBC sent out announcing the event to their members in a newsletter earlier today: The Networking and “Elevator Pitch” Evolutions At networking events you used to go around and introduce yourself with your “Elevator Pitch” and spread your business cards around. If you had some luck, someone would call you or send you an email after the event. The classic networking goal was to find suppliers and buyers for your products and services – and that was it: end of story. In our global-sourcing world today, we can buy and sell our products and services almost anywhere and almost everywhere. So the question has evolved more into: Why do you come to a networking event, given all the online options available to find products and services these days? And the answer is: “It’s because of the people you can meet.” And that is the evolution of networking: to get to know the people behind those offered businesses and services, and to identify prospective partners and new sales channels. Out of necessity, networking has evolved. We want to get to know who it is that we could work with, if they share the same interests or if their values reflect our own. In a nutshell, we ask ourselves, “Could we build a relationship with this person?” At this meeting we want to engage with people on a more dynamic and meaningful level that is different from “What do you do for a living?” We want to know “Who are you and how could we create value together?” The goal is to practice not just elevating the path of connection and finding common ground in order to increase the value of the contacts that we make, but also to increase the value of why we share our experiences, learn from each other, offer solutions for conflicts, referrals, different management approaches, etc.. Debby is a long-term member of AGBC Munich and a previous Board Member (VP Marketing Communications). ..... With an extensive career in Marketing Communications, Debby has worked for or with IT and engineering organizations (Compaq/Hewlett-Packard, Fujitsu, European Silicon Structures), Telecoms (Nokia, Siemens), Software developers and distributors (Aservo, SourceForge), Medical Technical Manufacturing organizations (Wild AT, RS Medizintechnik). She is an avid reader, a motivated learner and her love of her horses keeps her grounded in the here and now.
  11. That is exciting ! Congratulations! Looking forward to learning from you, and about your growth in this role! Kudos and High Five!
  12. I am doing a series on my  Facebook Page that is titled "Coaching ideas that work". The content of these posts is aimed at people that are not coaches, people who do not have have the same knowledge nor tools that we, as coaches have at our fingertips.   
    I thought I would start to share those posts here in Achology as well.   I would love to hear  your thoughts about these, especially if anyone tries any of these "ideas" out. 

    Thinking slow to move fast.

    Didn’t get the positive feedback that you felt you deserved and expected? Or someone didn’t express their appreciation of you like you thought they would? Maybe you failed at something that you put a lot of effort into? Is it just one of those days where things aren’t moving like you would like for them to and that has that got you feeling a bit down and out-of-sorts? Here’s one idea you can use to get yourself out of the rip tide: think slow to be able to move fast.

    This is a technique from Mindfulness - which is all about being present in the moment, being present at a slow level. 
    It is about putting more emphasis on the *process* of awareness rather than on the object of your attention.

    So on days like these, it helps if you just step back a moment and *become aware of your thinking*, not focusing on the actual thoughts you are thinking.
    Notice the difference: you are stepping out of your thoughts and just becoming aware *that* you are having thoughts.

    It goes like this: 
    1. If the thoughts are running around in your head and creating a tsunami of feelings and emotions, then slow down and give those thoughts a name. The goal here is that you want to identify them - not just feel them. You can even try to locate exactly where you are feeling them in your body. i.e.: Feeling down? Then say it: “I am feeling sad, my heart feels heavy.” Feeling rejected? Say, “I am feeling rejected, my knees feel weak.” By naming the feeling/emotion, and where it is making itself known to you in your body, you are taking away its power over your ability to think.

    2. When you’ve identified the feeling/emotion, then you can take the next step: describe what happened that gives you this feeling. This is how you do it: 
    Say to yourself “Yes, … and…” . 
    So going from the examples above, you could say, “Yes, I didn’t get the promotion and now I am feeling sad (rejected, angry, unfairly treated, … ).” Be sure to use the word “and” here - instead the word “but”.

    (“Yes, … and…” leads to a positive response, whereby “Yes, but…” leads to defensiveness. You can try this out for yourself: change the example above to “Yes, I didn’t get the promotion but I … tried my best/they’re too stupid to see what I have to offer/<enter argument of choice here>”. When you use the word “but” you automatically start to rationalize, look for reasons to explain things away. Can you tell the difference?)

    3. Give yourself permission to postpone judgement of your thoughts, after all, you’re only giving them a name. 
    This last step gives you some time – you’re slowing down the process of “feeling”, and giving your mind time to regroup and be able to observe things in a different light. You’re also giving yourself the time you need to get yourself back on course.

    By doing just these 3 steps you have taken control over your thoughts and you’ve slowed down the rip tide they can create if they’re allowed to run free untethered.

    1. Donnie "Coach" Hall

      Donnie "Coach" Hall

      I love it!

      In the book the Whole Brain Child, naming the feeling is the key to connecting left brain to right brain. Then grounding and rounding into the present state very much in line with CBT. Followed by positional perspective change NLP and Cognition Tower. I love how all of the methodologies complement each other. The only thing I might add, perhaps at the next level if not this one, would be and understanding that the cause and effect need not become concrete. So that rejection via not receiving the desired promotion doesn't become the default pattern as in a+b always equals c. This mind flow was one of many that is in our power to choose. We can choose to see "not getting a promotion" as an opportunity and/or a gift just as we can choose to feel disappointed as these are simply thoughts. Which thought do we wish to look at? Why are we choosing to look at the ones  we see?  

      All in all this layout looks fabulous, your title and message remind me of a video of a great guitar teacher that played incredibly complex compositions and extraordinary speeds. He said the secret is to play each note at one quarter speed and after you master the song at that speed then double to half speed repeat...etc. So I think the whole article is brilliant because it makes sense.  🖖😎 ❤️  

    2. Debby Spaltmann

      Debby Spaltmann

      Thanks so much for your feedback,  Donnie!  Yes,  I recall hearing the story about that guitar player before once, too.  I just adore how you and I are " on the same page" with our thoughts so often. High five! 

  13. Hi Jenny, it wasn't me - Kareen had the misfortune.
  14. Kareen, any kind of relaxation techniques are helpful, NLP or otherwise. I do think tho, that having someone else there to guide you through "a distance-taking phase" would be appropriate.
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