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  1. 7 points
    I have to share this with you all... I had the first session with a new client this afternoon and was discussing with her the difference between coaching and counselling. "Oh, that's obvious," she said. "In what way?" I asked. "Well," she said, "you don't have a box of tissues on the table." So that's settled, then 🤣
  2. 6 points
    One of the most profound shifts I have ever made in my life was turning my search for happiness inwards. Until I took Kain's Life Coaching Practitioners course, I simply just did not 'get it'. I am still floored that this is not taught in school. My journey has been painful but I have managed to come a long way. It was that shift in mindset and perspective that gave me the strength to leave my comfort zone and have the courage to alter my life in alignment with my core values. All of the programming I have received throughout my life created massive money blocks that were not easy to overcome. To be honest, I still struggle at times. The biggest one was I CAN'T be self-employed as a single mom. I HAVE to make a stable income. However, the difference between coaching and accounting for me is like the difference between living and not living. Q: Have you experienced a similar shift in your life? If so, what was the biggest 'ah ha' moment / self-realization when this shift occurred?
  3. 5 points
    Sorry for the down time everyone, we've just been rolling our some of our changes for the next release. You may notice some slight changes throughout the website. As always, any problems, please email support@achology.com Thanks for your patience!
  4. 5 points
    "Fundamentally, the work of a psychologist is to take someone from pathology and dysfunction and return him to normality. The work of a coach is to take someone who is normal and help her become exceptional." - Stephen G. Farley
  5. 5 points
    For me the shift started when I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and prescribed meds. It’s at that point I knew I needed a different way to live! The changes took time but that was the shifting point without doubt.
  6. 2 points
    Joy or sorrow, Happiness or sadness, Fear, Anger, Worry, Calm, Composure, Confidence. Strength or weakness. Youth or Old age. This too shall pass. Nothing is eternal. I AM.
  7. 2 points
    How blessed am I? Let me count the ways.... Countless art the blessings bestowed upon me, limitless, infinite showers of abundance, grace and knowledge, mine to keep, mine to share, mine to use, mine to lose... No matter what I do, any decision I take, blessed I was and thus I remain. Grateful.
  8. 2 points
    I am what I am and that's all that I am
  9. 2 points
    The more I learn, the less I learn, the more I know, the less I know, the more I am, the less I AM. Who am I? I am that I am.💫
  10. 2 points
    What is your awareness level? Birds and crickets sing, flowers and trees fill the sky with scent, sunlight bounces and dances off branches through the green wooded canopy and dazzle the vision of my daily path. No notification beeps, No stale air-conditioned air, No radiating light blasting through my optic nerves creating irritation. I’m free and alive each morning as I unplug and great back to nature. My morning five kilometer run is my religion, it’s my food without it my spirit feels empty, my energy low. So just like I have to pee when I wake up I have to do my 5k. Along the path, I meet friends that do as I do and take a break from the hustle and bustle of modern life. We smile often stopping to warn one another of those that invade our peacefully stroll with high speed (touring) bicycles. Yes, each morning, the mothers with jogging strollers, the eighty plus-year-old retirees, couples sharing in the tree bathing experience as well as folks like myself taking in nature without stress, we all get jolted by these bikers that assume that this winding trailing is their private race track. Many people these days walk or jog alone with earbuds, listening to music or following an exercise app to assist them in their morning run. The number of people I see wearing these devices has increased over the years. So the problem is that when these bikers, that usually travel in sizable groups ranging from four to dozens come flying around the bend from your rear, the earbud-wearing jogger cannot hear, “on your LEFT” and will not move over to allow for the peloton to flash by. This is a recipe for disaster! Another reality is that most of these bikers are so focused on what they are doing that they don’t apply proper etiquette, or they don’t know the social rules of shared pathways. They just act as if everyone is supposed to get out of there way so they can ride as swiftly as they care. Awareness, it is something both internal and external. While many of us struggle with inner awareness and are just learning about NLP, CBT, Mindfulness, etc.…There seems to be a real struggle with external awareness as well. The bikers versus pedestrian example I gave above is a daily happening. Despite the multitude of signs along the path that remind bikers to slow down and that people have the right of way, the teams of bikers race in, nonetheless. What is their level of awareness? Are they moving so fast that they can’t see the signs? Do they look at the signs and imagine it doesn’t apply to them? Are they merely defying the warnings because they don’t care enough to consider the feelings or experience they impose upon those they shock each day? If we are to become better at being aware of what is happening internally with our thoughts, doesn’t it make sense to practice being aware externally as well? When we are aware of the rules, the nature of people and the impact our actions have on others, we are practicing using the upper levels of our mind. Something I like to call the Cognition Tower where the ground floor is restricts awareness to an egocentric subjective perspective and higher levels where we can see further with more relative and objective perspectives. The lower levels or what I refer to as the Childhood division of the Cognition tower is awareness challenged. Driven by sensations and emotions where judgement and decisions are governed by feelings rather that critical thinking. For the biker is rush of danger, sensation of speed in tight proximity with others speeding along, the safety of belonging and riding with your tribe all fit nicely into a packaged way of experiencing life. While exhilarating for them it is often terrorizing for those that are merely blurred obstacles to be navigated around. They are aware on some level. The level that satisfies their ego and tribal requirements. However, this is where awareness ends or this is the limit to which they care for other people. Either way having limited awareness creates problems. Are you aware of what level you are experiencing life from? Are you aware of how much time you spend on each perspective level? Are you aware of your internal mindset? How much time are you paying attention to your environment? Those surroundings? The feelings of others? The whistle of the breeze that sings through the leaves, the refractive and reflective light that turns an ordinary path into nirvana? What is your awareness level? 🖖😎❤️
  11. 2 points
    What is your awareness level? Birds and crickets sing, flowers and trees fill the sky with scent, sunlight bounces and dances off branches through the green wooded canopy and dazzle the vision of my daily path. No notification beeps, No stale air-conditioned air, No radiating light blasting through my optic nerves creating irritation. I’m free and alive each morning as I unplug and great back to nature. My morning five kilometer run is my religion, it’s my food without it my spirit feels empty, my energy low. So just like I have to pee when I wake up I have to do my 5k. Along the path, I meet friends that do as I do and take a break from the hustle and bustle of modern life. We smile often stopping to warn one another of those that invade our peacefully stroll with high speed (touring) bicycles. Yes, each morning, the mothers with jogging strollers, the eighty plus-year-old retirees, couples sharing in the tree bathing experience as well as folks like myself taking in nature without stress, we all get jolted by these bikers that assume that this winding trailing is their private race track. Many people these days walk or jog alone with earbuds, listening to music or following an exercise app to assist them in their morning run. The number of people I see wearing these devices has increased over the years. So the problem is that when these bikers, that usually travel in sizable groups ranging from four to dozens come flying around the bend from your rear, the earbud-wearing jogger cannot hear, “on your LEFT” and will not move over to allow for the peloton to flash by. This is a recipe for disaster! Another reality is that most of these bikers are so focused on what they are doing that they don’t apply proper etiquette, or they don’t know the social rules of shared pathways. They just act as if everyone is supposed to get out of there way so they can ride as swiftly as they care. Awareness, it is something both internal and external. While many of us struggle with inner awareness and are just learning about NLP, CBT, Mindfulness, etc.…There seems to be a real struggle with external awareness as well. The bikers versus pedestrian example I gave above is a daily happening. Despite the multitude of signs along the path that remind bikers to slow down and that people have the right of way, the teams of bikers race in, nonetheless. What is their level of awareness? Are they moving so fast that they can’t see the signs? Do they look at the signs and imagine it doesn’t apply to them? Are they merely defying the warnings because they don’t care enough to consider the feelings or experience they impose upon those they shock each day? If we are to become better at being aware of what is happening internally with our thoughts, doesn’t it make sense to practice being aware externally as well? When we are aware of the rules, the nature of people and the impact our actions have on others, we are practicing using the upper levels of our mind. Something I like to call the Cognition Tower where the ground floor is restricts awareness to an egocentric subjective perspective and higher levels where we can see further with more relative and objective perspectives. The lower levels or what I refer to as the Childhood division of the Cognition tower is awareness challenged. Driven by sensations and emotions where judgement and decisions are governed by feelings rather that critical thinking. For the biker is rush of danger, sensation of speed in tight proximity with others speeding along, the safety of belonging and riding with your tribe all fit nicely into a packaged way of experiencing life. While exhilarating for them it is often terrorizing for those that are merely blurred obstacles to be navigated around. They are aware on some level. The level that satisfies their ego and tribal requirements. However, this is where awareness ends or this is the limit to which they care for other people. Either way having limited awareness creates problems. Are you aware of what level you are experiencing life from? Are you aware of how much time you spend on each perspective level? Are you aware of your internal mindset? How much time are you paying attention to your environment? Those surroundings? The feelings of others? The whistle of the breeze that sings through the leaves, the refractive and reflective light that turns an ordinary path into nirvana? What is your awareness level?
  12. 2 points
    Hi @Misty Flanagan - an interesting question, thank you. I would define self confidence as the courage to be myself in any situation. That is, I would not feel the need to act in a particular way or to say (or not say) particular things in order to “fit in”. Looking back over my life I can recall many times when I played a role instead of being authentically myself. Sometimes those situations went OK but mostly they didn’t end well, because if I’m not being authentic then I’m not behaving in accord with my personal values. There’s a distinction between self confidence and arrogance which I’ve always been conscious of. I tend to err on the side of caution and rather than assert myself and my truth (and risk being taken for arrogant) I tend to be quiet and/or play a compliant role. In my time I’ve known a few people who came across as extremely arrogant and in every case they turned out to be covering up some deep insecurity. I think you can always recognise someone who’s doing that; they lack genuine self confidence and so they puff out their chest and strut around issuing commands in a loud voice to all and sundry, faking it until they make it, perhaps.
  13. 2 points
    Hi @Stevie Mills Well... There are degrees of competence. We graduate from unconscious incompetence (we don't know what we don't know) to conscious incompetence (we know what we don't know) to conscious competence (we know what we know) to unconscious competence (when it becomes so natural to us that we don't have to think about it). That might sound a bit Rumsfeldian but it does make sense! So, when I'm approaching a subject that I know nothing about, if I'm being honest with myself then I've already skipped the first step - I'm conscious of my incompetence, which then gives me the choice of studying to become competent or consciously walking away to focus myself on something else. The trick here is to be honest enough to recognise that I'm incompetent, and to avoid being egotistical enough to think I can fake it until I make it. So, I would never pretend to be competent at something at which I know I'm not. In my time I've seen a good many ego-driven folks come to grief over this and I'm not about to make that same mistake myself. In answer to your second question, I can always become more competent in every single thing that I do, so any time I believe I've reached the pinnacle of competence I've actually lost the plot entirely. Learning is a life-long endeavour, the corollary to which is that when I stop learning I'll be dead.
  14. 2 points
    The first time I could be real spiritual was the moment I wasn't into a religion. I might sound harsh but for me religion and spirituality have nothing in common. A religion is an institution outside of who I am, while spirituality comes from the inside of who we are. When you "peel off" the religions, you find the simple principles that Jesus, Mohamed, Buddha and many other spiritual leaders taught at their times, and those are actually the core of the spirituality. After that, there are just a bunch of rituals that almost never have anything to do with the way we can live our lives in a spiritual way. Spiritual for me is believing that we are part of something bigger that goes beyond ourselves, that we are powerful without limits and that that power comes from our core.
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  16. 1 point
    I'm a manager and there is no way I could live with myself doing that nonsense. That's also a waste of company resources. It's Irresponsible and highly immature. People use that phrase "its business its not personal". Business is personal because it deals with people. There wouldn't be a business without people so yes business is always personal.
  17. 1 point
    A religious man will go to church, and the whole time he is there he'll be thinking about going fishing. A spiritual man will go fishing, and the whole time he is fishing he'll be thinking about God.
  18. 1 point
    How about discussion any of these articles, perhaps a nice simple place to begin? Minimalist Journaling: A Fun and Effective Tool for Tremendous Habit Change How to Make Better Decisions by Improving Your Intuition Effective Coaching Models To Structure Your Coaching Sessions
  19. 1 point
    For me, Spirituality is my connection with the essence of who I am vs. my mind and/or my body. It's the knowing we are all one in the same, = energy, and for that reason can never be destroyed. It's the understanding at a heart-level that I am here for a specific purpose and can only ever be truly happy when I am living it. That my traumas, 'mistakes' and misfortunes were all gifts as they collectively altered my path to get me to exactly where I am today!! There's nowhere else I'd rather be!! I believe my body is my 'vehicle' for this lifetime and that I must respect and care for it, however, when it eventually dies, I will still go on. I have also learned I am not my thoughts. Although I can't prevent thoughts from arising, I fully own that it's my choice alone that determines what happens with them. I can hear others, therefore they are not me. I can hear my thoughts and therefore they are not me either. When I finally found this connection I was freed from the majority of the suffering I was experiencing in life. I now live in peace with an abundance of love for myself, others, nature, animals and the entire Universe. 'Religion is for people who are afraid of going to hell. Spirituality is for those that have already been there' ~ Vine Deloria, Sioux Cheers!
  20. 1 point
    Mine is http://www.ninasempire.com - would love your feedback!
  21. 1 point
    100% agreed! I finished an interesting course last year called "How to think like a Roman emperor" which is based on Meditations. I find a lot of parallells between Stoicism and Buddhism.
  22. 1 point
    Cheating? Because of my own life experiences? 🤣 I learned from the very beginning of my recovery that I was being put threw it for some reason even though that was not evident to me at the time, it came over time has I went through the transition the light bulb went off and I now wake up everyday excited to learn the next thing and help the next person! 🙂 I'm a newbie coach but I know this is exactly what i was meant to be in this world
  23. 1 point
    The Extraordinary Mind by Vishin Lakhiani I Can See Clearly Now and Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life...both by Dr. Wayne Dyer I need to read more O.o oppps more then one...😜
  24. 1 point
    If I could recommend just one book it would be, 'The Handbook to Higher Consciousness' by Ken Keys Jr. This is the most profoundly practical book to clean up your unhappiness act and choose a happy way of life. It's neuroscience reprogramming before its time. (It sold a million copies in the 1970's. I just reread it and am amazed at how much working with the concepts in this book at bettered my life. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!
  25. 1 point
    I reviewed the prices of similar services in the local area, found the middle point and went slightly higher. Not scientific at all but I believe people by the results on offer before the price.
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