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  1. 56 points
    Welcome to Achology and the 10th of July 2018 was a momentous day indeed - we'd been working very behind the scenes at Achology HQ for over 12 months, doing our very best to develop a platform that will enable our every Achology member o begin giving voice o EVERYTHING that's in you. To Help Us get things off to a great a start, please take a few minutes to fill out your profile pages, add some excellent images so that we can each know who we're interacting with in the endless discussions that are about to begin 😀👍 Please friends, lets protect our Achology community and do everything in our power to become recognised as the first genuine international community on this nature!!
  2. 35 points
    The Vision We want the forums to become a place for mature discussion. Discussing topics from the courses and other topics relating to modern applied psychology. There is a multitude of practises and techniques available to practitioners and if you have experience in them we welcome you talking about them on the forum. We love inspiring, informative written and video content! So be creative, be inspiring, be supportive but above all be an Achologist. Self Promotion No self-promotional posts. Users found to be self-promoting in the forums will receive warning points. This community is a place of learning, understanding and growing. This includes using this community to reach out to members one-on-one. There will be a place for experienced Achologists to connect with paying clients in the future. This is currently in development but first, we need experience Achologists. The only forum that allows links to your content, such as video, Facebook pages or blogs is Let's Talk Business. Linking is allowed there in order to get feedback or help other Achologists learn and grow. Please read the rules thread there before posting any links. External linking, spam and advertising Spam is not tolerated. All automated messages and advertisements will be deleted. Only external links that compliment context and add value will be allowed. Warning points will be given for spamming and inappropriate external linking. Hidden posts Any post containing an image, video or link to a site outside of Achology will require moderator approval. If your post or reply shows as hidden it is awaiting approval. Moderators will approve these posts as quickly as possible. Posting in the forum Community members should search the forum for answers before posting their question. The search box can be found at the top right of the forum. Refrain from posting the same question in multiple forums. Please find the appropriate forum to post in, posting in the incorrect forum creates additional workload for moderators. Messages posted in the wrong topic area will be removed and placed in the correct forum by moderators. If you feel there is no suitable place for your post please put it in “the Lounge” which is for more general discussions. We are open to suggestions for new forums for specific topics. Language, respect and tone We have high standards! We’re trying to foster great conversation and we will remove comments that harm that endeavour. Respect other users. No abusing fellow forum members. Abusive posts will be deleted and members will be given warning points. People who continue to post inflammatory, abusive comments will have any memberships cancelled, banning and a refund will be issued. No threats or harassment of other users will be tolerated. Any instance of threatening or harassing behaviour is grounds for immediate deletion from the forums. No profanity or pornography is allowed and will result in warning points. Posts containing adult material will be deleted. Be kind, respectful and non-judgemental of others. This is a place of learning, not criticising. Use your common sense here and think before you comment. Give genuine feedback to others. We are here to help each other grow. Topic Bumping 'Bumping' describes commenting on your own forum topic so that a particular topic is returned to the top in the list of forum topics. Some users may even post a message with only the word "bump" to indicate they are posting only to bump the thread to the top of the list where more users will see it. This is unacceptable in Achology and users found doing this will receive warning points. Illegal content No posting of copyrighted materials or other illegal content is allowed. Any posts containing illegal content or copyrighted materials will be deleted. Warning points will be issued for Achologists who are found to be doing this. Images All profile/avatar images should be 150 x 150 pixels or smaller. When posting images in topics please make sure they are web optimised and no larger than 1000px wide. Over-sized images will be removed. Reporting topics/posts which break the rules There is a report button located at the top right side on each post in a topic, simply click this, provide a reason and the forum moderators will be alerted. Warning Points Warning points will be given for any of the mentioned offences. If 3 points are given in a 30 day period, this will result in an immediate membership cancellation, banning and a refund will be issued. However, it is at our discretion that a membership ban may be given on the first offence.
  3. 23 points
    Thanks everyone for participating in the launch of the Achology Community. Don't be scared, we know it can take a while to get used to something new so take your time. If you haven't already, update your profile by clicking at the top right corner and clicking PROFILE. You can update your picture , your background image or brand and your about text by Editing your profile. Have fun and if you get stuck please post into the peer support forum and we'll all try and help out 🙂
  4. 15 points
    What exactly is branding anyway? Is it your logo and colors? Well, a little bit, yet it is SO MUCH more than that. Your brand is you story, who you are and what people can expect from you. To take a look at a huge well known example, let's think about Starbucks. If you've been to a Starbucks (or 5) you know what to expect from one. Walk into one of their standalone stores anywhere in the world and you will find the same thing. Comfortable seating, free wifi, probably some Jazz music playing, the smell of the coffee and the open format where you can see the baristas making the drinks. Going beyond that, you see all over the store what Starbucks stands for. Their materials are all very blatantly labeled as recycled. Their coffee brands are all marketed with the story of their origins and a focus on free trade and ethical sourcing. Their advertising and news media presence focuses on diversity and inclusion. They are consistent in their message, values and who they are across all platforms. That is the Starbucks brand! By having a brand you can stand out from the crowd and build trust in perspective clients before ever speaking to them. People will feel that they know you, and what you stand for through what you share across the internet. In building our practice we can tell our stories and use them to communicate who we are to the world. What is YOUR Brand? What is the story you want to share with the world to help your future clients know and trust you?? I've posted an exercise below to help you get started. Give it a try and share your thoughts in this thread! What are your values that you want to show to your audience? For each value, think of and write out at least one story that demonstrates that value. How did you learn it? How did knowing that was a value impact your life? How do your perspectives or decisions change to reflect that value? What are your personal beliefs, virtues or character traits that you would like to share with the world? For each one think of and write out at least one story around it. How did you develop that belief? How does your life benefit from it? How does that uniquely help you serve others? Write out times that you have experienced and overcome adversity. Tell the story of those journeys. What did you learn on it that could help others? How did that experience change you? Write out stories where you had an achievement because of a discovery. Maybe you changed your mindset or got inspira-tion from somewhere. How did this experience help you? How would you help others have a similar outcome? What is psychically uniquely you that you want to show the world? What is your speaking or writing style? Is there something about your look or dress that is unique to you? This is a good questions to ask family and friends for input on as well! If they were to describe you to a stranger, what would they say? Putting it all together! Start to take the stories you wrote and share them with your audience. Give them real insight on who you really are and what you stand for. Be authentically you!
  5. 15 points
    Our community release is now scheduled for somewhere between Friday 6th and Wednesday 11th. We are well and truly all hands to the deck and aiming for Friday! I've added the event to the calendar.
  6. 12 points
    Hi Misty, Great post. I teach a workshop for social entrepreneurs about the power of storytelling. It is incredible how many people think their own story doesn't matter, especially kind, generous people, who might feel that telling their own story is somehow bragging and self-congratulatory. As you rightly point out, telling your story is the most effective way of communicating your values. Ultimately if you communicate your values effectively then you will attract the right people who are drawn to those values. If as in Kain's story, you were to 'pretend' to be something you're not, then inevitably you create a store of problems for yourself, as you're communicating the wrong values, you get the wrong clients, and everyone ends up unhappy. In our communications work, we always advise this congruent way of communicating to an audience. It is also surprising how many people are shocked to discover they have values! From that important starting point, we build outwards, creating the vision and mission. We craft communications from here, establishing the tone of voice, identity, who the audience are and so on. When you understand these, you can start to be creative in the methods you use, what channels you might work through, what stories you can tell. Finally, you need to continually learn from your audience, measure your results, what works and what doesn't, then adapt and improve. Its a really exciting process, and done honestly is hugely rewarding.
  7. 11 points
    Welcome to Let's Talk Business, your one stop shop to discuss all things on the business end of being a helping practitioner! Please use this space to share your ideas or questions around business related things, such as pricing, forms, insurance, etc. This is also the place to discuss marketing ideas and questions, or request feedback on content you have created for your clients. This is the only forum that allows linking directly to your content, such as videos, Facebook pages, blogs or websites. The vision is that we share this information to help other coaches learn, or get feedback for our own growth. Direct selling to other members here will not be tolerated. This includes any and all products or services in exchange for money as well as inviting members to webinars or calls with the intent of selling them something as a result. Violators will receive a warning and may be banned from this or all forums use.
  8. 11 points
    ‘Small talk’ can often yield greater and more significant discoveries. Asking simple questions when immersed in the natural flow of conversation is an elegant (and non-intrusive) way of ascertaining the general health of an individuals lifestyle. To a client, simple questions might seem like little more than ‘small talk’. However, if we encourage them to talk openly about the details of their lives, then actively listen and pay attention to the response we get, 'small talk' can reveal a great deal about the helpful and unhelpful patterns they have going on in their life. Naturally, we don’t want a client session to become an interrogation session, and we should feel free to respond from a place of intrigue to those whom we work with. But if you need some inspiration, the following sample questions can be slipped smoothly into a conversation at any stage to elicit answers specific to certain needs: How frequently do you meet up with friends? (attention, community/connection needs) Can you and your partner talk together? (attention, connection/intimacy needs) How are you sleeping these days? (mind/body needs) Are you happy with your diet? (mind/body needs) How much exercise are you getting? (mind/body needs) Is there anyone who you feel understands you and is close to you? (intimacy/connection needs) How much choice do you have about what happens in your life? (control/security needs) Do you have a clear direction of where you want to go in life? (meaning/purpose needs) Do you feel excited by what you're currently working towards in life? (challenge/purpose/meaning needs) What depth of involvement do you have with those people whom you spend the most time with? (community/status needs) When we first start practising our 'practitioner' skills, it can often sometimes seem confusing just knowing where to start. The most important key that will allow you to connect with others in the most meaning way is to listen and respond appropriately to the emotional content that lies behind our client's words. The foundational bedrock of every meaningful relationship is trust, and trust is developed over time. Those people whom we work with will grow to trust us with the more significant intricacies of their lives once they know we are committed to understanding the smaller details. ‘Small talk’ can sometimes have this funny habit of yielding greater and far more significant 'truth' based discoveries. What do you think friends??
  9. 11 points
    A few years ago when I was toying with the idea of becoming a coach, I went to this “free” seminar where I would learn so much about breakthroughs, how to get more clients than I can even dare to hope for and a whole lot of NLP stuff. I was green, I’m not going to lie, but not THAT green! I did stay for the day, and I noted a number of “life coaches” were there who seemed to know the guy talking. Incidentally, his name was Kain. He was shinier than a new coin, slicker than oil, and so much “fun”. Except when I tried to engage him in a quick hello, he couldn’t hear or see me ...must have been the glare from his amazing self...dunno. Anyway as the day went on, this slick guy, Kain, and his band of amazingly successful, golfer than golds told me of the cars they drive, had photos of the stars they had been in the presence of, and outlined how “I to” could have all the riches, glamour, adoring fans that they obviously did. I watched as people hustled to the tables to sign up for their yew best coaching packages, books and seminars and something didnt feel so right to my green self. Somehow inside me, at a very low time of my life, a little voice said to me, get your own self right and don’t listen to this shit. So I resisted signing, and I listened, and watched the shiny man and his shiny band continue to wow us with their amazing stories of great riches from coaching. I watched one of my friends sign up for a $20k coaching package, and I was really concerned for him. A few years later I asked that friend how it had all gone. The coaching was boring, he was not right in himself to get out there and market himself as he had his own inner work to do, and after $20k they dropped him as he had never followed through, leaving him shrugging his shoulders and wondering what had happened. At the meeting, I was accosted by a guy I was utterly repelled by, wanting to catch up with me for “coffee”. For some reason I was curious and I did meet him. The first thing he told me was before he could work with anyone he would “fix” them first. I was no coach at that time, but I also didnt think I was broken, even though to be honest it felt that way. He wanted to offer me cut price coaching so he could fix me, and had all these stories of people he imagined were doing well because he fixed them. I ran!! I ran from Perth, right back to NZ and never left a forwarding address and I never want to go to a seminar that promises the earth again. Now as a practitioner, I promise nothing, but I offer support, service and care. I carefully paint a picture to prospective clients, after listening to them very carefully, of potential. I make sure they know that working with me will not be easy necessarily, but it will be worth it, and its up to them to bring their whole selves. My whole brand is about love and joy and feeling whole and accepted. None of that has a drop of snake oil on it.
  10. 11 points
    This is awesome Misty and I love the topic of branding! A few years ago, I was having a discussion with a certain marketer (who was more like an old school salesman), who suggested that I should revisit my branding and reposition myself to a whole new demographic that he believed I could leverage from in quite a financially affluent way. This branding involved me 'making myself out' to be a multi-millionaire coaching success guru who mingles with he stars, has a succession of fast cars, speed boats and would resultantly be able to connect with the type of people who make paper aeroplanes out of $100 bills. In short, I sacked the guy before we even go started, as he wanted me to brand myself in a way that was false and incongruent. This obviously conflicted with my values somewhat, but the experience did get me thinking about the brand I would portray for as long as I have any teaching left in me. Transparency. Sincerity. Value. Truth. Honesty. Congruence. Creativity. Real. This is my brand. This is everything I commit to. I'll look forward to following 😉
  11. 11 points
    It's going to be good. Can't wait to see some great conversations happening on these rather splendid forums!
  12. 9 points
    I speak to a lot of people in the helping profession. One of the things that people find so challenging is Social Media. What to post, when to post, where to post, why to post. I have had a bit of that going on myself even though Im generally comfortable using Facebook etc. Lately its all come together. The purpose of Social media is for branding. Its about being known for your expertise. It isn't for selling, getting new customers. When I realised that, it took all the pressure off. I could give on social media and that pleases me. Im getting more comfortable in the context I can give. Im interested to hear about other peoples experiences, impressions and outcomes.
  13. 9 points
    Many thanks Misty and I fully concur! Yes, Achology is a great place where many of us will be able to talk business - in the appropriate places, and direct selling (or pitching) o other members is an absolute No-No that will not be tolerated. I know that everyone who want's our community to remain a healthy one will support this. I'll be more than happy to create video responses to the most 'upliked' questions we receive (if I haven't already done so). Let's keep our Achology community classy 😉👍
  14. 8 points
    What's a forum without a coffee lounge? Come in, sit, chat, and have a cup! 🙂 Having some Mc'Ds coffee while I'm looking around the forums. Thanks to everyone who set all this up and for your tireless work. The coffee's always on so feel free to relax - you've all earned it!
  15. 8 points
    Hi everyone, I'm really passionate about mindfulness, If you feel alike, feel free to connect me
  16. 8 points
    Ask questions! Going from the assumption that the person was acting on their own interests and not literally causing someone else harm, that is ... then you can approach such a person by asking them these questions: (BTW: don't worry about the "why" question at first - the other "w" questions are more powerful in this situation): What are/were you trying to achieve? What is/was important to you about this <action>? What goal do/did you expect would come out of this <action>? What would/could be an alternative to this <behavior>? What could you have done/said in this situation that would have been kinder/more fair/more open to ambiguity? How else could you have approached this <situation>? And listen to their answers - let them know that you are taking them seriously - be sure they understand you are not taking their actions/words lightly. It helps when you can be your totally-authentic-self in such a conversation, and express your feelings to their behavior without being accusing. i.e.: "This hurt me." "This <behavior> feels demeaning/unfair/wrong to me." A couple of "key words" are in here: ambiguity: can it have meant something else and you're taking this personally? fair(ness): for who? Do you both have the same definition of "what is fair?" Can that be clarified? hurt (being/feeling): is it true? Can you express what exactly "hurt"? It is a typical coaching situation ... someone feels like someone else hurt/pained/disrepected/... them and they think they have to change the other person. But you cannot change another person. It is hard enough to change ourself. So the only thing left to do, is to explain what is going on inside yourself and let it go. Forgiveness is not for the other person - it is for yourself. So you don't dwell on it, so you don't give the other person power over your feelings, thoughts and mental agility. XX - Debby
  17. 8 points
    Honestly, my niche is finding me. I get a lot of people in small businesses who are struggling with their own fears, mistaken beliefs, stress and anxiety. I also have a speciality in careers from years in recruitment, so it makes sense to me to deal with people as they are managing their careers.
  18. 7 points
    With my background of addiction based coaching, These clients usually also have a number of "feeling issues" (depression, anxiety, stress, anger) I find that the cognitive approach now works best in most coaching environments. Basic coaching is based on the decision to change. that change requires a cognitive application to succeed The biggest challenge to change is self-discipline, without it, we are unlikely to succeed. Even in more advanced coaching scenarios a return to basics often brings great clarity. So I'm wondering if theirs any other members that use a similar approach? It would be great to know your thoughts as I plan on hosting some Zoom events (online discussions) around this subject 🤠
  19. 7 points
    I am now quite a way into my journey and come from an environment where addiction recovery was my primary concern. As I have developed as a coach, I find myself using CBT and some counselling skills in early client relationships. These then grow into a more "time to change" coaching element with NLP techniques. My niche has become: Emotional and behavioural management and recovery. Depression and other, other behaviours that involve focusing on negativity seem to require a similar plan of occupation and mindful living to recover.
  20. 7 points
    When we are met with resistance it is usually do to three things, clarity, confidence and competence. Or let me rephrase and say the lack of these three things. If a person lacks clarity, they don’t know what they want or know how to get to where they want to be. They find themselves in a sea of aimless drifting, trying to figure how to make things come together, how to get to the desired destination. During this process frustration can really begin to build. If a person lacks confidence, it is usually because of their own doubts and fears. When doubt and fear are present, most people lack confidence and spend their energy worrying over whether their ideas are good enough or that they themselves are good enough. This will always hold a person back from achieving greatness. If person lacks competence, this is usually hand in hand with their confidence being on shaky grounds. Having the feeling of lacking in competence holds so many people back from reaching their desired goals and dreams. In life, when you lack the three C’s it causes you to feel the resistance to push yourself out and keeps you pulled back in procrastinating mode. It makes you feel stuck and holds you back from what you truly desire. So take into stock that you have a choice to make …You can either allow resistance to continue to hold you back and keep you procrastinating not achieving your goals, or you can push past it and take action (by the way action kills fear). My hope is that you chose to overcome resistance, push past the fear and in full action, not letting it stop you from achieving your greatest desires. My question to you is: What strategies can you use to get clarity?
  21. 7 points
    I believe that it is not possible to coach someone, unless they are committed to the process. That is why it is always necessary to work on the awareness of the client and that is based in the basics as Gary already said. This has to be always present. In my opinion that is the core of the whole coaching process. Despite of the topic/issue/problem, if the person is not committed, we can use all our knowledge, coaching skills, and unconditional acceptance, it wont matter.
  22. 7 points
    As a user of therapies over the years, one of the biggest problems frequently encountered, is the that the therapist has succumbed to the seduction of ego. If a practitioner fails to maintain humility, they can start to derive their significance from a perceived position of power over their clients. I know I've visited several practitioners who have displayed this kind of ego. As Kain points out in his courses, and Carl Rogers has written about, this is certainly a damaging position to take, both to the client and to the practitioner. We know that we are aiming to hold the client in 'unconditional positive regard', and you certainly can't do that from a position of domination, as domination already suggests a degree of judgement. By their very nature, the 'guru' has adopted a position of power and authority, and we'd be well warned away from such a path. I wonder if there are exercises that can be built into a practitioners' routine to allow them to be mindful of this trap? Perhaps having a mentor or coach of your own to help feedback on your thoughts about clients is another guard. What are people's experiences and suggestions for this?
  23. 7 points
    Oh man, I can't even imagine Kain, millionaire show off haha. Your values shine very clearly in all of your material! Amazing insight Cassian, and I love that graphic!
  24. 6 points
    How important is it really to find a niche, is it really important or are we just following a modern type of marketing style?
  25. 6 points
    As Achologists and helping practitioners, we all need a starting point. In this video I share what this starting point is, which is less to do with skills, processes and abilities and more to do with the attitude that we take towards those people that we serve. Please join in the discussion below!